Start Controlling Your Life

Local公司医生, or company doctor, Anthony Cappabianca built his body into a muscule machine, but even that couldn’t save him from the unexpected pains of life. trying his luck in China, He Now sees the world with new eyes.

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A few years back, the former body builder and US university educator in New York City, Anthony Cappabianca, had to make a decision. Sleeping in his car after losing his home, bank accounts and wife to a debilitating divorce, he realized there was only one way forward: acceptance.

“For about two weeks, I was just in a fog, and then one day everything became very clear. I wasn’t doing anything. I had to choose to move on with my life and forget about all the things that had happened. What mattered was that I had family and friends. All the things I had accumulated—the cars, the house, the money—didn’t matter,” Cappabianca said, recounting his moment of critical transition.

What happened next shocked even his closest family and friends who had all borne witness to the awfulness of the year prior. He bought a plane ticket to China.

“After my realization, I looked for the fastest job that could get me away from home. I had always wanted to travel and I figured this was the perfect time to make it happen. Continuing with my education background, I got on the computer and found an international English and business training institution in Shanghai. In about a month, they sent me a letter to come down and work for them. It was the best decision I ever made.”

“I think body building allows you to gain the discipline to take control. It’s not easy to wake up and have the same regimen every day. It’s boring, but you do it because you know what the end result is going to be. I think that’s where a lot of people fall short.”

Now stable in China, he has taken the opportunity to focus on improving his health and outlook on life.

“I had a shoulder injury about 12 years ago and couldn’t work out for about two years. I later tried to get back into body building, but just didn’t have the same feeling. It was only in Shanghai that I started going to the gym again and slowly started feeling better. When I came to Dongguan, I was full steam ahead,” he told me as he was showing before and after pictures of the physical progress he made since moving to China.

Keep in mind that though his “before” pictures would almost certainly put most of us to shame, he has a long history of focusing on developing his body, stemming from his youth.

“I think body building allows you to gain the discipline to take control. It’s not easy to wake up and have the same regimen every day. It’s boring, but you do it because you know what the end result is going to be. I think that’s where a lot of people fall short. Who is willing to do what others aren’t will set them apart. That’s why I love body building.” Indeed, we all could use a strict program to keep us in check and moving forward. The problem is most find distraction far too attractive.

After four years in China, a huge professional progress has also been made well beyond the gym. Already having consulted close to 20 companies, Cappabianca expanded himself beyond teaching in the classroom to now consult companies and lead important management training courses for employees all around China, including in Shanghai, Xiamen, Fujian, Shenzhen, Guangzhou and Dongguan.

“My style of teaching is kind of relaxed to make the classes very interactive and enjoyable. If they’re not having fun while learning, they won’t remember anything. We’re always laughing. I’m really lucky to be able to do this.”

Though things are running decidedly better these days for Cappabianca, he’ll be the first to remind you over and over that things don’t matter. Living your life in a bold and contented way is the best approach.

“I use my past as a tool to improve the present instead of a hindrance getting in the way of making me happy today. Sometimes, it helps to write all the things you have to be happy about and putting it on the wall. Look at it every day to remind yourself. I never felt happier in my life than when I had nothing. I realized all that stuff didn’t matter and I’m in control of my life.”

Too often we are slaves to a broken routine that will never satisfy, but instead will always leave us feeling as though we don’t have enough. It’s the classic “buy a car to go to work and go to work to pay for the car” loop that leaves so many people incredibly frustrated.

“At a certain point, I realized that I have to focus on what makes me happy. All the things you want in your life—cars, homes, money, etc.—are wanted just to make you feel good. [If that’s all you want,] why not find things that make you feel happy in a deeper way? The key is control. You have the ability to choose exactly how you want to feel. Take power over your life and live exactly the way you want.”

In that case, it might be time to quit the job and head directly to the beach. Whatever you do, don’t forget to dream.